The Inevitability Of It All

It’s the middle of the week and I’m randomly going through wedding pictures by various photographers, (because that’s a part of my job!) while on the phone with my friend coordinating about what all to pack for our bestie’s wedding this weekend. There are clothes, jewelry, shoes, make up and what not to pack!!!

And while we are figuring out all this and making lists, it suddenly hits me again that my best friend is getting married! I say again because for 3 months I was in denial about her wedding.

Don’t get me wrong. I am super happy for this girl and she deserves all the happiness in this world. It’s just that we have come such a long way from freaking out over economics assignments in high school to actually shopping for  her wedding.

It’s so surreal. Searching for that perfect border for the sari, preparing dances, and making elaborate lists of what all to pack. And all this for the girl who I have known for almost a decade. She is legit like my sister.

What makes it hard for me is that she is going to move countries after her wedding. So while we would be in Delhi, she is moving to New York with her husband.

There are preparations going on around the clock and trust me wedding in India are  BIG deal. It’s a once in a lifetime kind of celebration and it’s hangover will remain forever in your mind.

I knew all this was going to happen some day. But it hits you so hard when you see such things actually happening around you. We all would obviously get married and get settled in life but all this really happening is kind of unsettling for me. All of this feels like a dream. I’m still trying to make myself believe that yes all this is really happening. Yes, she is getting married. Yes, she is going to move countries. Yes, all this is was supposed to happen.

It was all inevitable and it’s happening. And was supposed to happen. And it’s all for the best.

So I’m packing up my work and heading to get the best manicure I possibly can get because hello!!!! It’s my best friends wedding!!!!

And I can’t wait for the party to begin!

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Things I learned In 2013

2013 passed away in a jiffy for me. Believe me, I was standing on the dance floor on the 31st wondering where the hell did these 365 days go!! It went away so fast that I could just remember the little highlights of the year that went away in the blink of the eye. 2013 was pretty much like aloo chaat for me. 

What is aloo chaat ?

I’m glad you asked.

It’s a North Indian street food of boiled and fried potatoes mixed with chutney and spices. So it’s sweet and spicy and sour at the same time.

And it’s exactly how this year felt to me. So many highs and an equal amount of lows. As I sit down to write this I feel so many emotions and thoughts going through my head.

So here’s what 2013 taught me.

1. You alone are your biggest support system. Not your family, not your friends, and not your better halves.You alone are the person who can understand what you are going through and be your biggest fan and critic. If you are clear about what you want, you are pretty much a winner.

2. It’s OK to fail and be miserable about it as long as it makes you even more determined to get what you want. Everyone fails once in his or her lifetime. And you are no exception. Learn to make your failures your biggest strength.

3. Sometimes you have to go against the entire world to get what you want. There would be times when nobody would stand by you and everything would seem lost. That is the time to be the strongest you’v ever been and stand against the entire world if it comes to that. If you prove yourself, the world will follow you.

4. Never let anyone dishearten you by discouraging you to do something you had set your heart on. Never give up before trying even if it means listening to lecture after lecture by people who have apparently more experience in life than you have.

5. The regret of not doing something would always be bigger than the hurt of failure. Before you give up on something, sit back and think whether you would regret not doing it when you are on your deathbed. Trying and failing is always better than not trying at all. Who know what destiny holds for you.

6. It’s OK to cry sometimes. Shut the door of your room, get under the covers and cry your heart out. It will cleanse your heart.

7. Not all you plans would be successful. Always have a contingency plan when it come to life, because life will always throw googly’s at you when you least expect them. A contingency plan will always help you get up when life will throw truckloads of shit on you. 

8. Being alone is healthy. There are times when you just need to be alone and spend time with yourself. Go to a coffee shop alone and read a nice book. The time you spend with yourself will be the detoxification you need to remain sane in this crazy world.

9. It’s OK if you have nothing planned ahead. Going with the flow is the sometimes the best thing that you can do. I have plans but I’m not forcing myself to follow them. I am happy to go wherever life takes me. 

10. There is no bad day which can not be turned over by good food. Throw away all your dieting rules and enjoy your food. There was a reason god gave us the three senses of sight, smell and taste. 

11. Everybody has bad phases. From ‘I don’t want to talk to anybody’ to ‘I want to run away from everything’ to ‘Vodka is my best friend’. We’v all been there done that. Never let these phases get onto you. It’s OK to have them sometimes but never let them become a part of your life.

12. Fate is what you do to your life. There is nothing that you can not do in life. The Indian Mythology clearly states that your ‘Karm” i.e. your work would always take you wherever you want to go. If you work hard towards achieving something, your fate would turn the tides in your favour. Believe in it. Never let your “stars” come in between you and your dreams.

13. Fall in love. Not necessarily with a person. It could be your job, your home, or even your dreams. If you fall in love with your dreams and passion, life would be 10 times better than what it is now. 

14. Dress smartly and feel good about yourself. If you are confident about yourself, the chances of you doing better in your work would increase dramatically.

15. Always consider yourself blessed. I repeat, ALWAYS. There are millions of people around the world who have not even 1% of what you have today. You may think that you have nothing but believe me, there are people who would exchange their lives with your’s in a heartbeat.

I end this post with a smile on my face. Life will have up’s and down’s but if you play your cards well, nothing can ever beat you.

Be happy and be blessed. I wish you all a smashing new year.

Lots of love,

Urshita