Forever Is A Myth

All of us are smitten by the concept of “forever’. Best friends forever, I will love you forever…..

We all want to be a part of that happily ever after. The future, which even though uncertain looks almost like perfection.

And frankly, there’s nothing wrong with lusting after forever. If you love something, you want it to be with you always. You would do everything in your power to keep it with you. You compromise, make adjustments, work hard and do every damn thing you can to make sure your forever is exactly how you want it to be.

You basically end up getting so engrossed in planning and preparing for that forever that you forget about the present. And in all this planning you forget that since the future is unpredictable, there is a major possibility that all your plannings can go down the drain in a single life changing event.

Your best friend, the love of your life, your career….nothing is permanent. And you can not control it forever. One single life twist is enough to knock you out and bring you back to square one.

One fight with your best friend, one misunderstanding with your love, one mistake in your career can change everything you ever had.

So does forever really exist in our uncertain future? Maybe it does. Maybe it does not.

I’m not saying that nobody would ever have a happily ever after. I hope everybody gets what they love in life. But in this hope for our perfect forever, lets not forget to enjoy this moment that we have today.

Today is the oldest you’ve ever been and the youngest you’l ever be. So seize this moment. Laugh, be crazy, love unconditionally, apologize, and just feel the moment. Today was a part of the forever you thought of yesterday. So enjoy it. Don’t let it go waste.  Plan all you want but don’t let all this planning stop you from being happy today.

It’s not necessary that all the compromises and adjustments will definitely lead to a happy future. Your forever will be perfect if you know how to be happy today.

And if your forever does not look like the one you had planned, then maybe you had it chalked out all wrong. Maybe somewhere you were trying to hold on to something that never belonged to you. So embrace whatever you get and treasure it. In the end, life itself will take you to that perfect forever.

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Silver Linings

Arrange marriages always befuddled me. The thought of spending your life with someone you don’t know seems weird. And though I belong to a country where arrange marriages are still a pretty common thing, I tend to be a little apprehensive about the whole concept. Not that they are bad in any way. It’s just that when you meet someone, they will obviously show you their good side. Who knows what creepiness hides behind that smile.

My parents just completed 25 years of their marriage and all my life I’ve been fascinated at how these two, despite being poles apart in personalities and temperaments, have managed to stay together and sane. These two are probably the perfect example of opposites attract.

They were set up by their parents through a newspaper matrimonial column. They met a couple of times and god alone knows what they talked about cause these two agreed to the match pretty quickly.

Though in those times people rarely allowed the girl and boy to meet often before the wedding, my grandparents were pretty open in their thinking and these two often met at ‘The Host’ in Connaught Place for tea. Those were days when there were no Starbucks or Café Coffee Day’s. So meeting over Chai and Pakora’s was their date.

There was no phone at my dad’s place so he used to call my mom from work. They couldn’t have talked much because my mom tells me that in those days, call rates were quite high. In this age and day we have Skype and Whats app and endless other ways to communicate with someone. But 20-30 years back, when there was barely a landline phone in every home, getting to know the other person was a humongous task.

After 6 months of courtship, they got married with much pomp and show.

Over these 25 years, I’ve seen my parents going from a simple middle class lifestyle to luxury cars and Rado watches. Not that I was there for all these 25 years. But this is what I remember. They’ve worked together and built a solid foundation for me and my sister.

I still don’t understand how these two have over the years maintained their sanity. I’ve never seen them fight. I mean yeah, they argue about stuff, but I’ve never seen them scream at each other or bang doors. And that is because strangely, every time one of them is in a bad mood, the other one makes himself scarce. Like they avoid each other till they cool down and then have lengthy discussions.

And when I say lengthy, it means I could have a round trip to the moon by the time they finish. These two just looooove discussing things elaborately.

I know I’m too going to have an arranged marriage, because believe me no normal person in his right senses would date me. If in these 24 years of my life I couldn’t find a guy, despite there being more guys than girls on this planet, I can very safely say that my parents would have to make a huge effort to find that one guy who can handle the craziness that is their daughter. 😛

And though this arranged marriage thing scares the shit outta me, I find solace in the fact that if these two could be together and make things work and celebrate a silver jubilee, then maybe it won’t be that hard to make place for a person in your heart even if you don’t know much about him.

Life will be like a mystery then. Unfolding new things about each other every day and making it work together towards that much dreamed about happily ever after. Despite all the thunder and clouds, maybe I too can find my silver lining.

It Was Worth The Wait

You could see the overflowing love in Abhimanyu’s eyes for her as she walked down that majestic staircase. The antique chandelier right above that staircase gave a royal touch to her entry. For anybody else, this was the perfect entry for the bride. But he did not see any of this. He had eyes only for her. His bride.

She looked resplendent in her red and gold lehenga.  Jewels glittered at her neck and ears but he only saw the twinkle in her eyes as she looked up and saw him.

His best friend, Kartik, standing right behind him gave a warm squeeze on his shoulder. Abhimanyu knew how happy everybody was for them. And as she slowly walked towards him, his mind went 6 years back down the memory lane.

6 years. He had waited that long for this day. He remembered the first day she walked towards him. They were introduced to each other at a new year’s party. He had been too drunk to remember anything but a polite handshake with her. At least he had not misbehaved or embarrassed himself.

The next day he saw her picture. Deep brown eyes, good dressing, waist long black hair, and that angelic smile. He tried to remember what happened last night and cursed the damn martini’s.

It was nearly 7 months later when they met again and gradually became close friends. And it was not long before he knew he was in love.

The only problem was that he never had the courage to tell her this. She was a social butterfly. Constantly in the company of good looking guys who were dying to have just one date with her. He, an average looking guy with nothing but a golden heart. But hearts have seldom won the ‘Love at first sight’ game.

She went on numerous dates. And every time she dressed up, she clicked a selfy and sent it to Abhimanyu for approval.  And every single time she outdid herself.

But it always ended with just dates. She never committed to anybody for she claimed nobody suited her. Abhimanyu wanted to tell her his feelings but he always feared he might lose a very close friend if she didn’t feel the same way. This thought always stopped him telling her how much he loved her.

Kartik tried to make Abhimanyu meet new girls and coxed him to forget about her because he knew Abhimanyu would never confess his love to her. But no matter how much he tried, he could never take her out of her heart.

Abhimanyu was happiest when she was with him and often they went exploring new eating joints in the city for they both shared a common love for food.

It was some months later when she called him up excitedly to tell him she had landed a dream job in New York. The contract was 3 years long and she just couldn’t wait to leave!

Abhimanyu’s world came crashing down around him. New York? It was thousands of miles away and he had no idea if such distance would let their friendship survive. He had seen deep rooted relationships dwindle with such distance. How could he, a mere friend to her be sure that she would still be in contact with her after being away for 3 years?

Initially she sent him emails describing how happy she was there and how she had met so many new people. But as the work increased, her emails became less regular.

He knew she was flooded with proposals from good looking guys there and he tried to not let that stop him from being happy for her. That was all he wanted. Her happiness.

Kartik had told him innumerable times to forget about her. But he waited. He had no idea what he was waiting for. All he knew was that he was madly in love with her and he wanted to see her happy.

Time flew away and the day came when she was coming back. Abhimanyu was eager to see her again. They had video chats but looking at her in person was a different feeling altogether.

Her flight was due for arrival at 6 in the eveining. He fidgeted all day barely able to control his excitement. He rushed to the airport with such a big smile that he could feel his cheeks hurt.

He kept looking at the flight arrival times and walked impatiently up and down the waiting lounge.

And when she finally walked in, his heart skipped a beat. To him it seemed like the distance has beautified her even more.

She ran to him and hugged him so hard that he could barely breathe.

“I missed you so much”, she said

“I missed you too”, he replied.

They looked into each other’s eyes. He never wanted to look away from those eyes.

“So are you going to say it now or do I need to wait for a few more years?”

“Say what?” he asked confused.

“Come on man. Tell her now. It’s high time and frankly I’m bored of the slow pace of your love story”, called a voice behind them.

Abhimanyu turned around and saw Kartik giving him his impish grin and looking really pleased with himself.

“What the hell are you doing here? I thought you had a meeting!” Said Abhimanyu .

“I do. And frankly I’m late for it”. Kartik replied laughing.

Abhimanyu looked at her. She had doubled over laughing.

Kartki slapped him on the back and said, “Dude just tell her how you’ve written 40 pages long love songs for her while she was in New York. And how you waited day and night for her emails. Oh! And also how you’ve ruined my every effort to get you hooked with some other girl. And much as I would love to see the end of this, I’m running late and I have to rush. Ciao dude.”

He winked at her, gave a friendly slap on Abhimanyu’s back and left as casually as he had arrived.

Abhimanyu looked aghast.

“I’m still waiting.” She said

“What the hell is going on!” exclaimed Abhimanyu.

“Kartik called me a few days back and told me what you felt about me. I didn’t believe at first because for years I had been dropping hints and you never responded. So I had backed out thinking you just thought of me as a friend. And I didn’t want to ruin our friendship because of what I felt.” She told him.

To say that he was shocked would be an understatement. Was she saying that she loved him? Dis she really say that she loved him and all this while he had been sitting around like an idiot thinking that she just thought of him as a friend!

“I love you Abhimanyu. And I have loved you for so long. I can’t pin point to when it happened, but all I know is that I can’t think of being with any other guy than you.”

“I love you too Aditi. More than I could ever explain to you.”. It felt so good telling her this.

“And it took you 6 years to tell me this.”She said taking a step back and crossing her arms.

“As if you asked me out a hundred times over!”

“I was scared!”

“So was I. And now that I know you love me too, I’m not going to let you get away from my sight for even a second.”

He pulled her towards him and held her close to him. He looked into her eyes and saw her crying. He kissed those tears away and held her tightly in his arms.

It had taken them 6 years to confess their love to each other. 6 years of waiting.

He was shaken back into reality by Kartik who gave him a questioning look. He shook his head and smiled at him.

And as he gave her his hand and helped her up on the stage where their wedding ceremony was to take place, he looked at her and saw her give him a smile of such unadulterated happiness as he had never seen before.  It was then that he realized that this moment and her smile had been worth the wait.

Your Insanity Will Be Your Best Friend

We all have been insane at one point in our lives. I don’t mean to offend anybody, but let’s admit it. We have all done something super crazy in our life that we would never have done had we been thinking normally.

Like maybe we fell in love with the wrong person, or cheated on someone, or ate an entire jar of Nutella in one sitting or wore yellow glittery boots with red pants or worse, paired this combination with a green shirt and blue eye shadow!!

I have not done any of the above mentioned.

No. I just talk to myself, or wear weird clothes, or find it amusing to push doors that clearly say pull or sometimes go to a store and try countless dresses only to end up buying a pair of socks. In my defence, those socks are cute. And sometimes I just say along all the announcements in the metro. Believe me that has earned me endless looks from people standing around me. Some of them even take a step back. 😛

And despite my being insanely crazy, I have some super awesome friends who though not encourage my behaviour, they do join in some times and have fun!

I have through the years realised that even though people around you would give you funny looks when you behave like crazy, somewhere deep down they remember the times they have been crazy, Because I don’t remember anybody who has never done something that the world in general would call insane.

And to be frank, I truly believe that there is nothing wrong in being crazy. It feels good to be out there doing something that nobody usually does. And at times, being crazy is that one trait that would make you different from everybody else.

I mean we find so many girls who dress perfectly with perfect hair, perfect make up and perfect clothes, but when you see some one dressed up quirky, you immediately turn back to look at them and smile. Sometimes even laugh!

And I totally love that. I think that if you can make somebody laugh, then there is nothing you can not do. Because giving someone that one moment in their day when they laugh out loud and forget everything else is the best thing you could EVER give to them.

Your insanity will always be the first thing that people will remember about you. I can with complete  confidence tell you that who ever knows me, would always remember me for all the crazy things I do. And this insanity has become my best friend.

 I would never for anything in the world change myself and give up being crazy. Because being crazy is a huge part of me and if I give up on that, I’m basically giving up on myself. 

I have voices in my head that make sure I’m always laughing at something or the other. And most of the times I end up laughing at myself. And when I say there are voices in my head, please don’t think I’m a nut case. Iv actually got myself tested by a psychologist. 😛

They are just the various thoughts in my mind which have a very strong opinion of their own. And sometimes I end up arguing with them loudly much to the amazement of the people around me who sometimes get worried about me.

So no matter how crazy you or insane you are. Embrace that part of you and paint the world red!! Or yellow or green or blue or purple. Whichever is your favourite colour! And always remember, your insanity will be your best friend. Always. It would never leave your side. 🙂 

It’s My Best Friend’s Birthday!

 

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Yay!! It’s my best friends birthday! And though we all have a work day today (which totally suck) I hope she has a smashing day and a wonderful life ahead. May you get all the success in life and the best of all things nice!

You are one of the best things that has happened to me. Have a lovely year ahead.

Happy birthday Darling!!

 

Oh! And this is for you….

 

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