Lucky Charms

Do you believe in lucky charms? Do you believe that a piece of jewelry or metal could actually bring you all the good luck that you seek? I for one don’t believe in such things. I don’t think that there really exists something like a trinket or a talisman that could actually work like magic for you.

I’m not here to judge anybody. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. And if you believe that a charm or a bracelet could do wonders to you then by all means hold on to that thing with dear life.

But I do believe in people. Somebody once told me that the biggest influence in our life is by the people we surround ourselves with. There are people who would set your mind free with all the positivity in them. And then there are people who would cage all your thoughts and make you look at everything that’s wrong with the world.

Up till now I never really had given this philosophy much thought. But in the past year I’ve observed that there is a certain change in the way I’ve started looking at things. It began in a subtle way and gradually my mind started accepting things which I otherwise would have given up thinking them to be impossible.

I started accepting the fact that no matter what I do some people will never be pleased with me. And trust me this is a hard thing for me to accept because for years I had been trying to become something I wasn’t just to get a simple nod of approval. What seemed like an immense effort came as so easily to me that the simplicity of my decisions stumped me.

I was by no means a rebel but yes I did stand up for what I loved and wanted and gave up on the false hopes of being happy while doing something that I hated. It was like I had been sleep walking all this time and somebody came and lovingly woke me up. The change was so gradual that it took me some time to realize what I had actually done!

It wasn’t until a few weeks back when I finally sat down and thought about what I was really doing because suddenly my life seemed to be going exactly where I wanted it to go!! One year was all it took to shake off 24 years worth of self pity, depression and the insane need to please people.

For most of you it might be an ordinary thing but for me it was the biggest decision of my life. To stand up for what I wanted and not give a damn to the fact that barely anybody supported me. And all this because somebody out there  was standing by my side listening to all the crap that I had to tell and still at the end of every rant tell me that everything will be fine.

4 simple words. Infinite depth in meaning. Everything will be fine.

Sometimes people inadvertently help you just by being there. They don’t do anything or say much, but them just being there with you is probably the biggest asset in your life. They will listen to you, console you, make you laugh and at times unknowing to both of you give you just the correct amount of strength that you needed to get back up and fight the entire god damn world.

I don’t know if it makes me believe in lucky charms…. but it does make me believe in that one person.

 

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What’s Meant To Be Will Always Find It’s Way

 

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What is meant to be will always find way.

I’ve always had mixed feeling when I heard this quote. Does it mean that if something is meant to be, it will happen no matter how much I try and avoid it?

Does it mean that whatever plans I’ve made about my life and future are going to be futile just because it was not meant to be?

I might not be a wise old woman but I’ve had my fair share of experiences that have made me wonder whether all the panning and thinking I do really matters?

Like when I’ve worked hard and planned and basically done everything I could do to make something happen, but the completely opposite result came out. And surprisingly, it felt good.

But at times it broke my heart so bad that it took me days to overcome the grief.

I’m usually not the “too much thinking” type of a person so I try and take this in a positive way. No matter how hard I need to work for something, I tell myself that if it’s meant to come to me, it will find its way. It’s out there somewhere, lost in the big bad world. But I’ll wait for it no matter how long it takes.

 

 

Things I learned In 2013

2013 passed away in a jiffy for me. Believe me, I was standing on the dance floor on the 31st wondering where the hell did these 365 days go!! It went away so fast that I could just remember the little highlights of the year that went away in the blink of the eye. 2013 was pretty much like aloo chaat for me. 

What is aloo chaat ?

I’m glad you asked.

It’s a North Indian street food of boiled and fried potatoes mixed with chutney and spices. So it’s sweet and spicy and sour at the same time.

And it’s exactly how this year felt to me. So many highs and an equal amount of lows. As I sit down to write this I feel so many emotions and thoughts going through my head.

So here’s what 2013 taught me.

1. You alone are your biggest support system. Not your family, not your friends, and not your better halves.You alone are the person who can understand what you are going through and be your biggest fan and critic. If you are clear about what you want, you are pretty much a winner.

2. It’s OK to fail and be miserable about it as long as it makes you even more determined to get what you want. Everyone fails once in his or her lifetime. And you are no exception. Learn to make your failures your biggest strength.

3. Sometimes you have to go against the entire world to get what you want. There would be times when nobody would stand by you and everything would seem lost. That is the time to be the strongest you’v ever been and stand against the entire world if it comes to that. If you prove yourself, the world will follow you.

4. Never let anyone dishearten you by discouraging you to do something you had set your heart on. Never give up before trying even if it means listening to lecture after lecture by people who have apparently more experience in life than you have.

5. The regret of not doing something would always be bigger than the hurt of failure. Before you give up on something, sit back and think whether you would regret not doing it when you are on your deathbed. Trying and failing is always better than not trying at all. Who know what destiny holds for you.

6. It’s OK to cry sometimes. Shut the door of your room, get under the covers and cry your heart out. It will cleanse your heart.

7. Not all you plans would be successful. Always have a contingency plan when it come to life, because life will always throw googly’s at you when you least expect them. A contingency plan will always help you get up when life will throw truckloads of shit on you. 

8. Being alone is healthy. There are times when you just need to be alone and spend time with yourself. Go to a coffee shop alone and read a nice book. The time you spend with yourself will be the detoxification you need to remain sane in this crazy world.

9. It’s OK if you have nothing planned ahead. Going with the flow is the sometimes the best thing that you can do. I have plans but I’m not forcing myself to follow them. I am happy to go wherever life takes me. 

10. There is no bad day which can not be turned over by good food. Throw away all your dieting rules and enjoy your food. There was a reason god gave us the three senses of sight, smell and taste. 

11. Everybody has bad phases. From ‘I don’t want to talk to anybody’ to ‘I want to run away from everything’ to ‘Vodka is my best friend’. We’v all been there done that. Never let these phases get onto you. It’s OK to have them sometimes but never let them become a part of your life.

12. Fate is what you do to your life. There is nothing that you can not do in life. The Indian Mythology clearly states that your ‘Karm” i.e. your work would always take you wherever you want to go. If you work hard towards achieving something, your fate would turn the tides in your favour. Believe in it. Never let your “stars” come in between you and your dreams.

13. Fall in love. Not necessarily with a person. It could be your job, your home, or even your dreams. If you fall in love with your dreams and passion, life would be 10 times better than what it is now. 

14. Dress smartly and feel good about yourself. If you are confident about yourself, the chances of you doing better in your work would increase dramatically.

15. Always consider yourself blessed. I repeat, ALWAYS. There are millions of people around the world who have not even 1% of what you have today. You may think that you have nothing but believe me, there are people who would exchange their lives with your’s in a heartbeat.

I end this post with a smile on my face. Life will have up’s and down’s but if you play your cards well, nothing can ever beat you.

Be happy and be blessed. I wish you all a smashing new year.

Lots of love,

Urshita

Happy New Year!!

A very happy new year everyone!!

I know I’m a day late, but that because I just came back from a lovely vacation in the sun and sands. I’v been hit in the face by the freezing cold of Delhi the moment I got out of the train. 

I hope you all have a fabulous year ahead. May all all your wishes comes true and all of you have the strength to go ahead with your resolutions, unlike me who forgot about it and gorged on piping hot halwa on the very first morning of the year. (I had sworn not eat sweets till the time I lose weight) 😦

So here’s to a rocking year!! May this be the craziest year of your life!

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A Letter To Santa

Dear Santa,

I know you must be insanely busy these days and probably going crazy with all the work. So let me just increase that pile of letter’s by adding my letter to it. Now don’t start pulling out your hair! It’s your job to read all the letter that come your way, even if they have been written to you by someone who has been really naughty all year long.

I know I haven’t been an image of goodness all year, but in my defence, this year sucked!

To begin with, I lost my grandmother in the very beginning of the year. I fought and screamed at god for doing this and till date I can’t come to terms with the fact that when I go to her place I don’t see her in her room waiting for me. Or that I didn’t get a phone call from her on my birthday. And now I never will get one. 

That was like the biggest set back that came to me.

The next was when I didn’t get into the college of my choice because I was short of just 1 mark. 1 Mark. That was all it took to throw all my hard work and sleepless nights down the drain.

Then came the innumerable misunderstandings that I had with my best friend. We fought for like months!

And I am not even mentioning all the other crap that happened all year long. And believe me I died a little inside every time something happened.

I almost gave up on life. It was really bad and I just had no idea what to do and get myself together.

But every time life kicked me in the face I got up stronger than ever to kick back. And I’m glad I didn’t lose hope. 

So this year I want nothing but peace and happiness. And maybe a little less of all the shit that happened last year. (OK, a lot less!!)

I know I am not in your good list but please be nice this time. And if you ever have a chat with god, tell him I’v marked 2013 in my black list and I would be having a long talk with him about it whenever I have the  pleasure of his acquaintance.

I have had a lot of good things as well but it is outweighed by the bad at any given point. So please be kind to me and everyone around me this year. I really can’t take another year like this one.

Love

Urshita 

The Story Of My Life In 300 Words

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I found this challenge on the internet during one of my many “Pretending-to-be-busy-while-randomly-surfing-the-net” moments in office. It said to write down the story of your life in exactly 300 words. No more no less. So here’s my attempt to pen down the story of my life in a handful of words.

 

I was born as the first child to my parents and the day I was born the stock markets crashed in one of the biggest slowdown of my country’s economy. Hence I was fondly named ‘Money’.  I did my schooling from one of the best schools of our country and Graduated from the Delhi University with accounts as my major. I’v made lots of friends all my life and most of them have stuck around till date. Also, I’m usually the crazy one in our group. 😀 

I had a lot of up’s and down’s in my life and an equal number of heart breaks. but I’v always evolved stronger than ever to tackle them and get my life back on track. I’m a very loud person but I love slow songs. Especially old Bollywood songs.   

I had always wanted to be a Chartered Accountant so I put in all my efforts to be one until one day when I realised this was not what I wanted to do in life.  So I went around confused for like a year till I finally understood what everybody had been explaining to all my life. I have a talent (some call it a curse :P) to talk a lot. And I mean A LOT. I’v been told my in-numerous people to do something where my speaking skills can be put to better use. 

And so I finally got myself enrolled into a Law college and I loved it. I am now doing something that really interests me. I am also a freelance photographer which everyone finds really weird as I completely shut up and remain really patient when I’m with my camera, rather than continuing in my usual jumping jack  behaviour. 

I’m truly blessed with an awesome life! 🙂